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A Man Who Liked Me Cost Me My Job. Here’s What I’ve Learned
“Men who develop feelings for you can sabotage you because you are forcing them to rethink the choices they spent a lot of time making, like their relationships which are a significant part of their lives.”
Misandry for me means I understand the threats to my health, my safety, my well-being, and of course my livelihood from men who despise me as well as men who are attracted to me. Many women make the mistake of believing that only men who don’t find them attractive can harm them, but from personal experience I am telling you that is not the case. Men will sabotage you even if they want to love you!
Sounds confusing? Of course it does! Men do dumb shit and sabotage their chances of love all the damn time, mainly because they are not secure in themselves. In my younger years I experienced the downsides of being the attractive, enticing apple of the eyes belonging to an older, more tenured male coworker, and I learned that a man liking you is not all fuzzy, lovey-dovey feelings and validation of one’s beauty and femininity.
At the time this ex-coworker of mine had a girlfriend who didn’t work with us. When he showed me a photo of her I immediately knew his feelings for her were not that intense; I have dated, spoken to, and been with taken and married men, so I know when a man is only with a…
