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Actually, You Don’t Have To Love Your Parents
I am moving forward in life with lots of compassion and self-redemption for the traps I placed myself in that served my parents but didn’t serve me.
It seems as though our society is utterly obsessed with rabbit holes, but one of the most important deep dives you can take is to unravel the mysteries of why you are the way that you are. One of the roots that connect us to understanding the masks we put on to hide or even avoid who we truly are and who we are meant to become stems from our parents.
Many of our guardians have built their entire lives around lies they either told themselves or lies others have told them about themselves that they believed, and in turn we do the same thing. And we have the audacity to wonder why things don’t work out for us in the ways we think they should!
This is because your desires don’t belong to you. They were simply unmet desires that belonged to your parents, and unaddressed trauma expertly disguises itself in these false life goals we set for ourselves that will eventually lead us into depression and self-destruction.
So over the past few weeks I have really done the uncomfortable task of examining nearly all parts of my life and connecting them to my childhood. Here’s what I came up with:
