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Actually, You Don’t Have To Love Your Parents
Children deserve better than parents who are more lovestruck for an unseen being than their development as a well-rounded, confident, emotionally-healthy adult.
Many of our guardians have built their entire lives around lies they either told themselves or lies others have told them about themselves that they believed, and in turn we do the same thing. And we have the audacity to wonder why things don’t work out for us in the ways we think they should!
This is because your desires don’t belong to you. They were simply unmet desires that belonged to your parents, and unaddressed trauma expertly disguises itself in these false life goals we set for ourselves that will eventually lead us into depression and self-destruction.
My fear of the unknown comes from my father. My compulsion to shop every time I feel sad comes from my mother. My fear of taking certain risks in life stems from dad. While mum always tells me that no man is an island she also encouraged me to keep up appearances, pretend as if everything is okay, and to never show emotions, cry, or lean on others when you are sad.
Now I am not interested in settling down with a man, but my parent’s marriage and their dysfunction does have an influence on my decision. I also do not care to have children, but my mother’s nagging about her…
