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Dating While Traumatized: How Women Create The Very Red Flags They Try To Avoid!
If you are the same woman you left from leaving your last relationship, do you really expect to start something new with someone different?
I decided to pretty much go underground after my last relationship. I chilled out on having sex, making friends, dating, all of that. I needed to sit my ass down and identify the parts of myself that were in love with abusive men. You cannot effectively accomplish this when you allow your ego to falsely convince you that breaking up with an abuser is enough and that you are ready to move on just by being single.
If you meet someone new and you are worried about encountering the same red flags you overlooked in your past relationships, clearly you are not ready to date this person, or anyone for that matter. You are living defensively and you are too busy searching for external signs of abuse when it is more worthwhile to search for any internal triggers or traumatized soul fragments that can only get your attention to locate and heal them through abusive men.
