Debunking The Misconceptions About Women Who Only Date Married Men

“I will never, ever be a man’s everything; I don’t drain my life energy for the masculine. Isn’t that what wives are for?”

“Get your own man!”

-Women everywhere

I usually tell people that I am not wife material. I am mistress material instead. In my early 20s I got a small glimpse of the mistress life and I was hooked.

The mark was decades older than me and he was incredibly successful and well-respected. We belonged to the same church and due to the extremely wide gap in age he actually saw me grow up. Strange, huh? So how did we end up in a secret love triangle between me, him, and his wife, all while singing hymns in the same vicinity?

A really close friend of mine gave him my number. She looked up to him as a father figure and believed that if he talked to me I would stop the behaviors that concerned her. At the time I was a little boy-crazy and I did risky shit like climb into cars with strange men and give my number out to just anyone. So in my friend’s mind this man would give me some masculine guidance to straighten me out and put me on the right path.

Nope. He fell for me instead.

I still remember when he reached out to me for the first time. He called my phone back to…