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How To Quit Sabotaging Your Womanhood Through Your Irrational Fear Of Loneliness
The beauty of relationships and connection has been exploited to accommodate women who have created a life purpose out of earning love from others when we are here to meet ourselves.
I have heard tall tales about this Boogeyman called Loneliness since girlhood, and as a child older church ladies were grooming me to eventually grow up to dodge her wrath through centering men.
So I was berated for cutting my hair off even though chopping off my long locks served as another experience for me to explore myself, all because “Men don’t like women with short hair,” which is what an older prayer warrior with a bad wig told me. I was forced to smile all the time, because as a single mother mentioned as she cornered and overpowered me men don’t like women who don’t appear happy, even if these same men aren’t doing a damn thing to contribute to our happiness.
I learned very quickly from Jesus’s fan club known as women who had nothing to live for other than overextending themselves to receive praise and validation from the pastors, husbands, baby daddies, and sons they worshipped that women only exist to serve men through being pleasant, quiet, agreeable, soft, pretty, fertile, and eager to marry as virgins and be barefoot and pregnant.
