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“I Deserve To Be Alone” And Other Evil, Forbidden Mantras
“I deserve to be in love with myself exactly as I am. I am never, ever going back to therapy, nor am I listening to anyone tell me that something is wrong with me and Jesus, or marriage, or kids, or giving people another chance is the answer.
Fun fact: nothing is wrong with me. My heart is cold and sexy.”
Whenever I hear anyone, especially women, discuss the outcomes they deserve their statements usually involve never settling and eventually earning partnership with a loving individual. It’s almost as if nearly everyone on this planet views romance as the ultimate reward for going to therapy, working on themselves, and finally learning to love themselves. And if they do not receive this prize they are failures.
It’s amazing how we are conditioned to find our other half or our better half in someone else, and the only reason we should even attempt to be better people is to share this “betterness” with the people we marry and the people we create.
Interestingly, even though I do not plan on sharing shit with anyone in this lifetime for the rest of my days I was forced to challenge how I viewed my single status this morning. Because even though I believe it is the superior decision for me and my lifestyle habits and goals, telling myself what I deserved was difficult.
