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“I Don’t Believe In Divorce” Is The Opposite Of Self-Love!
“Why on earth would I care for anyone to lock me down, throw away the key, and keep me confined to the same genitals for decades?”
Growing up in the Christian church meant you were introduced to the institution of marriage and its role in a the infamous godly family unit from young. I attended lots of weddings as a child, and similarly I was surrounded by many god-fearing families headed by parents who were married for decades.
The overwhelming message that was drilled into the minds and hearts of the younger generation I belonged to was that marriage within the Christian church was our one and only ticket to all the wild sex we desired, and divorce was not a thing to ever seriously consider under any circumstances. Any issues you have with your spouse can be prayed on and worked out with God’s grace, along with a few sessions of marriage counseling with the pastor.
I still remember the very first time I heard our pastor tell the congregation that he doesn’t believe in divorce. A few ‘hmm mmm’s and nods from the audience was confirmation that his stance was widely supported. But even as a child I couldn’t believe what my ears were hearing! As far as I was concerned, divorce is an expensive yet necessary way out of the hell you created through saying “I do.”
