I Hate When Men Fall In Love With Me. Here’s Why.

“I don’t believe in equality. Most relationships aren’t equal, so I might as well be on the most beneficial end. On another note, I think it bothers people so much that a woman is bold enough to expect to be on the best receiving end of a relationship. Other women can keep the cultural servitude: submitting to men who don’t do shit for them and having their babies. I’m good.”

-Text I sent a guy friend after we discussed modern women who want traditional men

One of the very real reasons why I avoid most men is because I can’t stand when a man likes me. Sounds weird, right? I know. I literally cringe when a guy friend wants to graduate from the friend zone. Like damn, can I just exist as a single woman in peace?!

As soon as a man decides he no longer wants to be my friend, I realize that I have to end the relationship once he displays certain behavioral signs towards me that makes me realize that my emotional, mental, and even physical safety is compromised.

It’s not that having a cute little crush or fantasizing about spreading my legs is bad. That’s natural and normal. What has me running for the hills with all my might is how aggressive these men suddenly become to try and get me to go along with their agenda for me; for us. Which is all about control, power, and ego. And not to my…