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“I Have To Thank Every Man That Left Me”: How To Discover Unconventional Love As A Single Woman
You don’t ever have to earn happiness, or love, or a life that is enjoyable and meaningful, through a man.
Since girlhood we were conditioned to blindly adapt the belief that love is only found in men and the children we have for men, and if you do not have these things you are not loved, you are not experiencing love, and your life is completely void of love.
This extreme tunnel vision women have which tells them that love can only be lived out through romance is perpetuated by the sheer obsession of marriage, in which many ladies have absolutely no idea why being a wife is a fantastic idea. I have yet to hear any woman articulate why marriage is a worthy goal for them. They just have this feeling that this is what they should devote their entire lives to.
The truth is that finding yourself also requires you to find more things and people to love outside of men who will probably leave you eventually. And those things do not have to be as magnificent or socially and aesthetically pleasing as a wedding or the birth of your first child.
Once you relinquish the addiction to romance-fueled tunnel vision you will discover that love is all around you. Love is inside of you and it pours out magically in the…
