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I’m Not Straight Because Heterosexual Women Have Too Many Damn Problems!
“Imagine wanting a relationship with the same gender that disrespects you and harms you on the daily!”
For the majority of my life I was convinced that I was heterosexual. I even blatantly expressed my disdain for my sexual orientation in many of my Medium articles. But it was only recently that I realized I am not straight. And I will implore any woman who shares the same viewpoints and lifestyle as I do to rethink what and who she is, because our sexuality is ours to love and cherish. It is not for anyone to decide for us, like we have been used to accepting since the beginning of time.
It has taken me some time to finally come to terms with my sexuality. However, I choose to give myself a lot of grace. I grew up in an era where everyone was automatically deemed heterosexual and we were not allowed to question this label that was forced on us by two powerful systems in existence: our society and the Christian religion whose beliefs are promoted by our society. So like many others I simply accepted this reality, no matter how much my brain tried to fight back against it.
For years I was simply confused, and when I look back at my life I only liked men because I was conditioned to do so. Now that I am finally coming to terms with my own womanhood and defining it for…
