Maybe You Should Quit Using Men To Validate Your Self-Worth?

“I know my worth.”

“My standards are sky high.”

I have heard both these statements many times over by so many single ladies who are looking for love by way of dating. And I am left to question if these affirmations are excuses they tell themselves to justify why they are still single? Or are these declarations supposed to attract the most qualified men their way?

I guess I am simply confused by what your worth has to do with dating? Because the thing is this: men don’t have to know your worth. And they don’t have to care about it, either. Your worth clearly doesn’t mean shit to them.

I look at this, “I know my worth” rhetoric as a form of gaslighting yourself. It’s like you’re attempting to blame any lack of confidence or standards for why you don’t have that special someone in your life instead of facing reality.

Reality says that you can view yourself as the baddest bitch in the world who deserves the very best. You still are not guaranteed “true love” by way of a romantic relationship (I’m using air quotes because most men don’t give a fuck about love the way women do). I don’t know when the ladies are going to have an epiphany and realize that most men don’t want to be with them in that way, and that it’s okay to permanently cut ties…