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Men Are Innately Destructive, Even When They Are In Love With You
Just because someone cannot love you beyond who they are and the pain this causes you doesn’t mean the love is nonexistent!
I am going to say something that you will probably not accept, but here goes:
I actually believe that a man can be in love with a woman and hurt her. In the psyche of a man the two can coexist. As women this doesn’t have to make sense to us, and whether we like it or not we are seeing this notion play out in real life. A man’s rationale for hurting the people he loves will never add up in our minds.
From childhood we are taught that love must always look a certain way. We automatically associate love with happiness. Many ladies are hell-bent on believing that love doesn’t hurt, or at least it shouldn’t. Love is supposed to be the opposite of pain. However, this isn’t the case across the board. Sometimes loving lessons come through getting hurt. And people who love you can say or do things that you may not like. We’re human. It happens.
Just because someone cannot love you beyond who they are and the pain this causes you doesn’t mean the love is nonexistent! Many people can only express love in the ways they know how. They need to be taught how to love you. But again, their feelings are still valid.
