Navigating Hypocrisy: Men Want An Unattached Woman Until…

“I find it embarrassing how grown adults insist on acting like crazed, pubescent children drugged up on their idea of romance.”

“You would make the perfect wife. I was thinking about it all day today,” he said softly. We were on the phone while he was driving to work.

“Really? Why do you say that?” I asked, smiling.

“Because…you’re not clingy. You trust me. You’re not always checking up on me.”

“Oh, right. Well I have better things to do,” I said with a chuckle.

His words were sweet, but I didn’t hold my breath. While this man stated he enjoyed his freedom and he couldn’t stand women who were always worrying about his whereabouts, a few days passed when he said he wanted to be needed by someone. I rolled my eyes while I played in his locs as he told me he wanted to know there was a special lady out there who cared for him. I knew the hypocrisy was coming. I’ve met so many men who wanted an independent woman, but then again they wanted to be providers who were needed.

Which one is it?

Our romance-driven, hyper-sexualized society promotes obsessive behavior in relationships as healthy love. Years ago I’ve noticed a shift on how we are so damn quick to call ourselves crazy and clingy, as if that is…