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Normalizing Discomfort, Pain, Heartbreak, And Other Sticky Emotions We Hate To Feel
There is no need to maximize the feel-good emotions while avoiding the ones that make us feel like shit when both are gifts from creation.
I mean, I get it. I know what it’s like to have strong feelings for people who don’t reciprocate those feelings. It sucks. It hurts. Actually, a few nights ago I was thinking about a guy I had the biggest crush on. He was my classmate, and he had the most beautiful eyes I’ve ever seen. One morning I told him I liked him, but he didn’t feel the same way. During recess he was business as usual after crushing my heart. He was having the time of his life playing football with the rest of the boys in my class while I distanced myself from the girls to cry alone.
My heart definitely goes out to my younger self, as I wasn’t armed with the information or tools to cope that I have at my disposal now. Trust me, I wasn’t handed this shit from anyone. It took a lot of pain and lessons for me to build my goddamn toolbox!
But today I am going to put the toolbox away, because it can get tiring to fix shit all the time. This is because we think we must maneuver through life repairing ourselves all the damn time. And it makes sense, because we call ourselves broken whenever we feel the sting of heartache, discomfort, and emotional…
