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The Parasitic Parasocial Relationships Women Create Identities, Sisterhoods & Social Power From
Women need to quit relying on the success of other women they admire enough to live vicariously through and get a life. Their own, that is!
Nearly all women and girls aspire to be celebrities in their own right, and they cannot help but idolize the rich and famous for successfully achieving the social power they are trained to desire. If we can isolate the hatred and jealousy of women, it primarily stems from comparing how much she is seen and validated for being seen to someone else.
Most ladies base the entirety of their self-esteem on how seen they are: at work, at home, at school, at the gym, at the mall, and of course on social platforms. Plus all of their aspirations center around being rewarded with external validations of social power like marriage, friends, kids and compliments from strangers for being seen. And of course more opportunities to be seen by others, which they call social climbing.
Because the life goal of a lot of women is to be seen and validated for being seen, they use representatives in the media who must remain relevant by being seen 24/7 to prove their desirability or status in society based on their aesthetic approximation to their representatives instead of their own experiences; probably because their…
