The Sad Reasons Why We Love Humble Women

Sanni Lark
5 min readJan 25, 2022

“Humble women aren’t intimidating. They are comfortable to be around. We are not reminded of our insecurities and shortcomings when we run into them.”

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“You think you’re better than everyone else.”

This was a familiar taunt that I was confronted with growing up. As a child I couldn’t quite understand what was meant by this. So I asked for clarification.

“Well…we just think you’re stuck up. You think you’re better than us.”

While I was trying to make friends my peers tried to reject me before I could reject them. For some reason they came to the conclusion that I didn’t think they were good enough to be in my presence as I was usually by myself, minding my business..and suffering from social anxiety.

I never said I was better than anyone, as I wasn’t taught to be haughty. So their remarks left me confused. What I failed to realize was that these girls thought I was better than them, and they projected their insecurities onto me by creating a narrative in their minds about me that didn’t exist.

Over the years some of my friends admitted they didn’t feel comfortable being themselves around me in fear that I would judge them. I was always taken back by their confessions, as I thought myself to be chill and open-minded. But the cold, stuck-up, cocky…

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Sanni Lark

Channeling sacred, unadulterated, feminine chaos and wisdom through writing. For more primordial womanhood activation visit: https://www.sannilark.com