The Selfish Daydreamer, Also Known As The Hopeless Romantic

“And you can find him sittin’ on your doorstep

Waiting for a surprise

And he will feel like he’s been there for hours

And you can tell that he’ll be there for life.”

Daydreamer, Adele

I came across a post on Facebook which caused me to raise both my eyebrows. And it made me question if the idealistic bunch of people who identify as hopeless romantics are okay?

The post reads as follows:

“Realize that if the relationship ended, for whatever reason, it was not the one for you.

Anyone who can walk away from you or let you walk away from them is not someone who was all that invested in your life to begin with.”

The first thing that came to mind was this: love is fucking selfish. This is why I am just fine being alone. The concept of loyalty is selfish. Happily ever after is selfish. The belief that there is one person out there for you who is willing to stay with you for eternity no matter what is selfish.

Because this group of people who most likely watched way too many Disney movies as kids are fixated with finding “the one,” they may not realize that some of their past relationships may have been healthy. That loving…