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Trauma Bonding With Men Looks Like…
Men who cannot be useful and teach me something that actually adds value to my life cannot receive access to me.
Any man can tell a woman she is beautiful. Any man can say or do something silly to make her smile or laugh. Any man can be intrusive and cross physical, mental, and emotional boundaries and feel entitled to a woman’s time. Any man can dump his issues and traumas with his wife, girlfriend, or women who wouldn’t give him the time of day to any pretty young thing who will listen.
But a man who can actually add value and positivity into a woman’s life outside of trauma bonding about his life or repeating rehearsed compliments about her femininity and leave her feeling uplifted and satisfied, not used, annoyed, and drained? That’s fucking rare.
These connections are reserved for women who understand that their life force shouldn’t be used to make any Tom, Dick, and Harry that approaches her feel good about his decision that was based on being bored, horny, lonely, or impulsive. Because what he’s really attempting to do is be rewarded with raw feminine energy that he knows he isn’t deserving of!
Why do you think men use their sexual interactions with us to make themselves feel good about being alive, even if they haven’t accomplished a goddamn thing in their entire lives outside of coercing women out…
