What I meant by hushed has more to do with the fact that this fetish, as well as a few offers, isn’t really allowed (or encouraged) on phone sex platforms. Sex workers try to get around it with certain words and tricks.
But as for PH you are right. I don’t really like porn as a whole. It’s too male-pleasure focused. I get it though, as their main customer is men. Women are just left out of the equation it seems.