What My Rapist Taught Me About Men And How They Compartmentalize Safety For Women

“This is why many ladies bring up the mamas, sisters, daughters, and aunties of men as a desperate last resort in an attempt to figure out why the majority of men do not give a fuck about the safety of women.”

Not too long ago I wrote a lengthy article detailing my rape and the emotional turmoil I went through, as well as the legal justice and mental freedom I finally gave myself from this horrific incident. What I didn’t explain was my rapist’s background which supports my opinions about men, and how some of them will go to war for an exclusive group of women, namely their family members, but proceed to move through life guilt-free, inflicting all sorts of pain to women they don’t deem worthy of respect through harassment, stalking, groping, and rape, amongst other things.

Tonight I found myself reflecting on the conversations and experiences my rapist, the man I trusted, and I shared prior to that Monday afternoon when we were in bed together and he fought hard to shove his dick inside of me after I made it very clear multiple times that I did not want to have sex. You see, this man had a daughter he was extremely proud and protective of. He also had two sons but his little girl was the love of his life.