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Why Women Don’t Give Themselves Permission To Be Sexually Desired By Anyone Other Than Their Husbands
Just because someone doesn’t care for marriage it does not mean that they are incapable of loving you, caring about you, doing right by you, and making you feel safe.
Steve Harvey’s book Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man is based on the entrepreneur using his authority as a man to perpetuate the fears women have surrounding love and sex. Because creating all sorts of rules for men to commit to you that aren’t based on anything authentic or loving is bound to fail. But Steve knew what he was doing; women will blindly listen to anything men say. He made a pretty coin off of the desperation of women.
The average woman’s obsession with marriage is so fascinating to observe and study for me because this institution, like Steve Harvey’s silly dating rules, provide women with a false sense of control through the lie that marriage actually causes men to commit to us. That men cannot leave us and trigger our childhood fears of abandonment if we are hitched. These are all lies from the pits of hell!
Seriously, what the fuck is waiting 90 days to have sex supposed to prove? If he doesn’t want to commit to you on day one he sure as hell will pump and dump you on day 90!
