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You Still Own Autonomy Over Your Body, Even Within A Relationship
You don’t have to always go with the flow, especially when that flow doesn’t make your body feel safe.
You can love your partner with all of your heart. That love still does not dictate that you automatically lose control over your body. It doesn’t mean you have no say as to what happens to your body or through your body either. You have just as much right to exercise your boundaries and say no as a girlfriend or wife just as you have the right to reject men as a single woman.
Being someone’s partner does not dictate you drop whatever you are doing to share your body and your time with them whenever they need you to cater to their desires. The only thing that’s changed about you is your relationship status. But guess what? You are still the main steward of your body, your time, your health, and your life, not your man.
I am not saying don’t trust your man, especially if he has shown you that he cares about you deeply. But I am saying that you still must account for the health and safety of your body regardless if you are single or not. You see, body language isn’t just about how we communicate with others using nonverbal cues. It is about a real, working relationship with your body where it speaks to you, and you not only listen to it but you honor its wishes too.
